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We can sometimes mistake rumination for problem-solving. Just because we're thinking Ainsworth IA dating personals the past and our actions, we can think that were actually sorting things. The truth is, we're just going round and round in a circle.
In addition, there is often a heavy self-critical tone to rumination.
Rather than being a way out of problems, it's often a way to replay our failures and torture. Little good comes from rumination.
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It can give you a way to break out of the repetitive thinking about the past, to extend our thinking into the present moment, and into the future.
We can start thinking it in terms of hope, optimism and positivity. Counselling strongly supports the growth and development of people and consequently has a strong emphasis on introspection over rumination.
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